Our Story + Mission

We’re Paul and Ali, and we’re building the healthy marriage and home we never had.

Integrated Family exists to help Christian couples with trauma histories navigate the complexities of healing from the past while also building a stronger marriage, healthier home and family legacy centered around Christ.

We know personally the challenges of healing and building at the same time, which is why this work matters so much to us.

Our story (The short version)

We’ve been married for 14 years and are raising four boys (including twins!)

Both of us carry stories of childhood trauma, dysfunction, grief, and the kinds of wounds that do not stay neatly in the past. We’ve experienced firsthand the painful ways those stories can shape marriage, parenting, and family life.

Early in our relationship, those patterns affected us deeply - almost to the point of unraveling our marriage. Over time, we’ve had to rebuild our marriage and family culture from the ground up without a healthy model to start from.

We are still growing and still learning, but today we have a marriage and family life we genuinely enjoy and would be proud for our children to model.

Want the longer version? Listen to our podcast.

What Does “Integrated” Mean to Us?

  • Integrated Healing: We heal and integrate our past wounds so they no longer control our daily lives and relationships without ignoring how it shaped our story. We can hold the tension of healing and hurt.

  • Integrated Faith: Faith becomes real life, which contains nuance, questions and wrestling - not just subscribing to abstract beliefs. We weave our walk with God into the fabric of our life.


  • Integrated Family: Building a marriage and family that work as a connected team rather than as disconnected individuals living under the same roof. We build with generations in mind.

  • Integrated Life: Living in alignment with vision, values and mission through our work, service and life choices that fuel the next generation.

What We Help Couples Build

  • A healthier marriage shaped by honesty, safety, and repair.

  • Stronger family rhythms that support real life, not just ideal life.

  • Clear family vision, mission & culture rooted in faith, legacy, and what you want to pass on.

  • A team mentality that helps your family live with purpose together.

  • Deeper understanding & compassion for navigating nuanced family dynamics - including trauma histories, Autism, ADHD and more!

If you are a Christ-centered couple trying to build a healthier marriage, home, and family future than the one you inherited, you're in the right place.

We'd love to stay connected.

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